Is my girlfriend experiencing sexsomnia or is this something different? We’ve been together for 7 years. Sometimes while she’s asleep, she’ll grab my hand and place it under her clothes, leading to foreplay and sometimes sex. Other times, she just falls back asleep. Recently, she expressed a desire for me to initiate these actions while she’s asleep, specifying how she’d like to be woken up, and mentioning to stop if she’s not in the mood upon waking. I’d appreciate any insights or thoughts on this.
Sounds like you have a very understanding and open partner!
Frost said:
Sounds like you have a very understanding and open partner!
Hello! While I’m not an expert, my boyfriend has sexsomnia, and we’ve done some research. Sexsomnia typically involves actions occurring while the person is fully asleep, often without memory of the events. Your girlfriend’s request seems more like a personal preference within your relationship rather than sexsomnia.
Sometimes, I engage in similar behaviors with my partner while I’m asleep. It’s strange because I’m partly aware during the moment but only remember bits and pieces the next day. It’s like a different part of me takes over when I’m asleep.
@Mai
That sounds quite similar to our experiences. She often initiates intimate contact in her sleep and has little memory of it afterwards, except for small fragments.
It’s possible to act out while subconsciously aroused. Many people experience similar behaviors where they initiate intimate contact in their sleep but don’t progress beyond simple actions unless they fully wake up. It sounds like she’s just expressing her desires in her sleep.
I had a similar experience with an ex who initiated intimacy while asleep. He didn’t remember it the next day until I pointed out evidence. It was our first encounter with learning about sexsomnia.
I’ve had similar experiences with a previous partner who would initiate intimacy in her sleep.
I had a relationship where my partner would wake me up for sex and then go back to sleep as if nothing happened.
Wow, interesting!
My boyfriend sometimes starts out asleep during intimacy and then wakes up partway through. There have been times when I’ve slept through the whole thing and had no memory of it the next day.
This sounds a bit like bragging to me.
It’s important to discuss and ensure that both of you are comfortable with these interactions. As long as everything is consensual, it’s acceptable.