I usually head to bed before my wife does. I find it tough to drift off knowing she will join me later and possibly disturb my sleep. When she’s not home, I have no issue sleeping alone. Ideally, I should be able to sleep, wake up when she joins, and then fall asleep again, but I end up lying awake instead. Does anyone have any tips on how I can train my mind to handle this better
I face a similar issue, but it’s somewhat reversed. I go to bed before my husband and spend some time reading until I feel sleepy. According to my Fitbit, I then fall into a deep sleep pretty quickly and don’t notice when he comes to bed. However, if he goes to bed at the same time as me, I struggle to fall asleep. It seems like my mind refuses to shut down. I guess we both need a mental adjustment
@Freddie
That’s exactly what happens to me! If my husband stays up later than me, I have no trouble falling asleep quickly. But if he goes to bed at the same time, it’s much harder. I think it’s because I feel safer when he’s still awake, especially since I’m scared of intruders. It would be great to figure out how to calm my mind in these situations
Maybe try using ear plugs
Have you thought about a ‘sleep divorce’ Trying to sleep in separate beds or rooms might help you rest better a few nights a week
I had a similar problem and ended up moving to a different bedroom. For me, sleeping near someone else is just not restful
Consider getting a dog, or perhaps seeing a therapist. They might help you understand if there are underlying issues like codependency affecting your sleep
Taryn said:
Consider getting a dog, or perhaps seeing a therapist. They might help you understand if there are underlying issues like codependency affecting your sleep
It sounds like the issue is that his wife’s later arrival disturbs his sleep, making it hard for him to go back to sleep once awakened. The anticipation alone can prevent him from relaxing and falling asleep in the first place