I can’t sleep properly. I have two days off work, but instead of catching up on rest, I’m only getting around 2 hours of sleep. I wake up, try to distract myself with social media, but I keep thinking about this person.
We had a conflict, and now I can’t get him out of my mind. He blocked me on Facebook and doesn’t respond to my texts. I’m not sure if I’m guilt-ridden or if I’ve developed feelings for him, but I keep wondering how I can apologize and express what’s on my mind.
Should I keep trying to reach out, or is it time to let go and work through my regrets?
Give yourself some time to recover. It’s important to respect boundaries. Cry it out if you need to, and focus on your sleep and mental health. You can try soothing activities before bed—chamomile tea, avoiding screens, and getting exercise.
Redirect your focus to positive things. I’ve been there after a breakup. It helps to keep yourself busy—exercise, read, explore hobbies you enjoy, and do things that remind you of who you are outside of the relationship. This should help you rest easier at night too.
@Dezi
Maybe try a topic that’s completely different, something relaxing that won’t remind you of him. I use space podcasts when I need to drift off, and they’re just the right amount of calming.
Hollis said: @Dezi
Maybe try a topic that’s completely different, something relaxing that won’t remind you of him. I use space podcasts when I need to drift off, and they’re just the right amount of calming.
I’ve been there, and I know it’s painful. The best thing to do is let go and focus on yourself. It might mean going hour by hour, distracting yourself, and slowly allowing yourself to feel better. Don’t worry about sleep right now—it’ll come eventually.
Lennon said:
Maybe write out your thoughts to him in one final letter, even if you don’t send it. It can be helpful to let everything out in a peaceful way.
I wish I could speak to him in person or on a call, but I’ll try this if that’s not possible.