Tips for Managing Different Sleep Schedules in a Relationship

Seeking Help
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My boyfriend and I recently moved in together and are finding it difficult to align our sleep schedules. I go to bed around 10-11 pm, needing 8-9 hours of rest, while he stays up playing games or watching TV and usually sleeps from midnight or later. His nighttime routine often wakes me up as he snacks, gets ready, and moves around in bed. This has led to disrupted sleep for me, sometimes keeping me awake until 3-4 am.

We’re trying different solutions, like him sleeping in the other room occasionally, but we’re concerned about intimacy and want to find more sustainable options.

Does anyone have practical advice on managing different sleep routines while maintaining a close relationship?

2

Consider earplugs and a foam mattress to reduce disturbances, or even separate comforters to minimize movement impact. Communication and compromises like using headphones for his TV time can also help.

3

I think sleeping in separate beds some nights could be a healthy approach without sacrificing connection.

4

A foam mattress topper and separate comforters have made a big difference for me in reducing sleep disruptions from a partner’s movement.

5

We use two side-by-side beds with different mattresses for each of us. It’s unconventional, but it works perfectly for minimizing sleep disturbances.

6

Getting on a shared bedtime schedule or watching TV together before transitioning to guided meditation could help synchronize your routines.